When Your “Mom Confidence” is Shaken

“Mom Confidence”

A friend said it the other day and it made so much sense I actually stopped dead in my tracks. She said, in passing “when my kid was teething, it was so awful, it really shook my mom confidence. I just felt like nothing I was doing was working and I couldn’t console my kid”. Bingo

Savvysidekick and I just got back from a week in Berlin. It was wonderful. We wandered, sat on patios and luxuriated in the absence of a scheduled day. However, by the end of the trip, we were missing our little dude. Every kid we saw on the street gave us a little twinge. So we were so excited to get home and get the little guy who had been staying with my mom for the week we were away.

Picking him up was great. He was so excited to see me and I him. When we got home, he recognized his room and his stuff and just appeared to be so excited to be back. However, by the night time it was a different story. Our generally extremely happy baby was miserable. Running a temperature. Crying inconsolably.

Welcome home parents. Welcome home.

I didn’t know what to do. The first night I pulled out all the stops. Walking with him in my arms. Paediatric Advil, teethers, etc. Having not been around him for a week, we were out of synch. I didn’t know what he needed or wanted. I was in anguish. I was terribly worried something bigger was wrong.He wasn’t eating, wasn’t drinking, I made the ultimate mistake and turned towards doctor google. Bad idea. I was a terrible mom. Savvysidekick and I should have never left! Our little guy would never forgive us!

By day three I encountered a few moms who gave me their horror stories with their kids and teething. Right, Baby B was likely teething. He also wasn’t in his bed for a week so he was overtired. Finally, babies feed off your vibe so if you’re upset, so are they. Ah ha. Bingo. So logical…

Yet until I heard, my friend say “mom confidence” I didn’t put two and two together. Being away for a week, my mom confidence was shot. Sure Savvy Sidekick had tried to talk me off the ledge but it’s not the same. Until your other mom friends tell you the truth and can relate, it’s just not the same.

So to my mom friends, and the one who helped me understand my “mom confidence” was just a little shaken, you mean more to me than you’ll ever know. Having you going through the same things and offering support, advice and an ear puts everything in perspective.

I just needed to walk and talk to you to find out my mom confidence was just a little out of sorts. It’s back now. Thanks.

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